Friday, March 27, 2009
Knowing The Needs of Children
Knowing the needs of children is an essential part of parenting skills. For a child to grow up into a mature individual, his day-to-day needs must be adequately met. Children's needs are interconnected and interdependent in a complex and continuous way. This means that their physical, emotional and moral needs must be sufficiently and simultaneously met for their total wellbeing. This principle implies that a child's needs cannot be placed in cold storage while parents busy themselves acquiring wealth. A child's need for love and security cannot wait till the parents are well off. It has to be met right from birth onwards. An important characteristic of the child's needs is that they must be met in the here and now. Children cannot wait for the parents to acquire the 5 Cs of cash, credit cards, car, country clubs and condominium. Obviously parents also have material needs, but theirs can usually wait without harm to themselves.
The Tender Years Are The Most Important Years
21 memos from your child:
* Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for. I'm only testing you.
* Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel more secure.
* Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
* Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
* Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I will remember it better if you talk privately with me.
* Don't make me feel any mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
* Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way, sometimes.
* Don't be too upset when I say "hate you". It isn't you I hate but your power to thwart me.
* Don't take too much notice of my small physical complaints. Sometimes they get the attention I need.
* Don't nag. If you do, I shall protect myself by appearing deaf.
* Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always very accurate.
* Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
* Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
* Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
* Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
* Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
* Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover you are neither.
* Don't ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologise to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.
* Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult to keep pace with me, but please do try.
* Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get on without it, so please put up with it.
* Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love, but I don't need to tell you do I?
* Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all that I ask for. I'm only testing you.
* Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it, it makes me feel more secure.
* Don't let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.
* Don't make me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly "big".
* Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I will remember it better if you talk privately with me.
* Don't make me feel any mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
* Don't protect me from consequences. I need to learn the painful way, sometimes.
* Don't be too upset when I say "hate you". It isn't you I hate but your power to thwart me.
* Don't take too much notice of my small physical complaints. Sometimes they get the attention I need.
* Don't nag. If you do, I shall protect myself by appearing deaf.
* Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always very accurate.
* Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
* Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
* Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.
* Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.
* Don't put me off when I ask questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
* Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover you are neither.
* Don't ever think it is beneath your dignity to apologise to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you.
* Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult to keep pace with me, but please do try.
* Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get on without it, so please put up with it.
* Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love, but I don't need to tell you do I?
Friday, March 20, 2009
How to stop cough in 5 minutes!!!
See if it works the next time you have a cough...
You may wanna try this out the next time.
We have all been kept awake by our own or someone else's cough. Try this and pass it on. The tips and not the cough. ANYTHING is better than antibiotics. Even babies could benefit from this and the parents wouldn't worry about the safety of their child. And of course, it is harmless and free from any type of side-effects.
WOW! I was raised, and raised my kids with Vicks. How come I never knew this? I can't wait for my next cough. Amazing!
READ IT ALL. It works 100 percent of the time, although the scientists at the Canada Research council (who discovered it) aren't sure why.
Treatment:
To stop night time coughing in a child (or an adult, as we found out personally), apply Vicks Vapor Rub or Gwei Hwa Balm generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime and then cover with socks.
Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about five minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. This works 100 percent most of the time, and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly. I heard the head of the Canada Research Council describe these findings on the part of their scientists when they were investigating the effectiveness and usage of prescription cough medicines in children, as compared to alternative therapies like acupressure. I just happened to tune in to a.m. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs, so I listened. It was a surprising finding and found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, and in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly. I tried it on myself when I had a very deep constant and persistent cough a few days ago, and it worked 100 percent! It felt like a warm blanket had enveloped me. The coughing stopped in a few minutes, and believe me this was a deep (incredibly annoying!) every few seconds, uncontrollable cough and I slept cough-free for hours every night I used it.
If you have children or grandchildren, pass it on. If you end up sick, try it yourself and you will be absolutely amazed.
You may wanna try this out the next time.
We have all been kept awake by our own or someone else's cough. Try this and pass it on. The tips and not the cough. ANYTHING is better than antibiotics. Even babies could benefit from this and the parents wouldn't worry about the safety of their child. And of course, it is harmless and free from any type of side-effects.
WOW! I was raised, and raised my kids with Vicks. How come I never knew this? I can't wait for my next cough. Amazing!
READ IT ALL. It works 100 percent of the time, although the scientists at the Canada Research council (who discovered it) aren't sure why.
Treatment:
To stop night time coughing in a child (or an adult, as we found out personally), apply Vicks Vapor Rub or Gwei Hwa Balm generously on the bottom of the feet at bedtime and then cover with socks.
Even persistent, heavy, deep coughing will stop in about five minutes and stay stopped for many, many hours of relief. This works 100 percent most of the time, and is more effective in children than even very strong prescription cough medicines. In addition it is extremely soothing and comforting and they will sleep soundly. I heard the head of the Canada Research Council describe these findings on the part of their scientists when they were investigating the effectiveness and usage of prescription cough medicines in children, as compared to alternative therapies like acupressure. I just happened to tune in to a.m. Radio and picked up this guy talking about why cough medicines in kids often do more harm than good due to the chemical makeup of these strong drugs, so I listened. It was a surprising finding and found to be more effective than prescribed medicines for children at bedtime, and in addition to have a soothing and calming effect on sick children who then went on to sleep soundly. I tried it on myself when I had a very deep constant and persistent cough a few days ago, and it worked 100 percent! It felt like a warm blanket had enveloped me. The coughing stopped in a few minutes, and believe me this was a deep (incredibly annoying!) every few seconds, uncontrollable cough and I slept cough-free for hours every night I used it.
If you have children or grandchildren, pass it on. If you end up sick, try it yourself and you will be absolutely amazed.
Singapore's Public Swimming Pools
Here is a list of Swimming Complexes with Wading Pools and Teaching pools:
1. Clementi S.C 520 Clementi Avenue 3, tel:6779 0577
2. Queenstown S.C 473 Stirling Road, tel: 6473 2555
3. Delta S.C 900 Tiong Bahru Road, tel: 6474 7573
4. Jalan Besar S.C 100 Tyrwhitt Road, tel: 62939058
5. Buona Vista S.C 76 Holland Road, tel: 67780244
6. Toa Payoh S.C 301 Toa Payoh, tel: 62594808
7. Katong S.C 111 Wilkinson Road, tel: 63449609
8. Bedok S.C 901 New Upper Changi Road, tel: 64435511
9. Tampines S.C 505 Tampines Avenue 5, tel: 67861151
10. Serangoon S.C 35-A Yio Chu Kang Road, tel: 62884606
11. Yio Chu Kang S.C 202 Ang Mo Kio 9, tel: 64819054
12. Ang Mo Kio S.C 1771 Ang Mo Kio Avenue 1, tel: 64566821
13. Bishan S.C 1 Bishan Street, tel: 63536117
14. Jurong East S.C 21 East Jurong Street 31, tel: 65635052/65652297
15. Chuo Chu Kang S.C 1 Choa Chu Kang Street 53, tel: 67678606
16. Woodlands S.C 3 woodlands Street13, tel: 62694192
17. Yishan S.C 351 Yishan Avenue 3, tel: 67525513
18. Seng Kang S.C 57 Anchorvale Rd, tel: 6315 3576
For more information on SAFRA, go to: http://www.safra.sg/
1. Clementi S.C 520 Clementi Avenue 3, tel:6779 0577
2. Queenstown S.C 473 Stirling Road, tel: 6473 2555
3. Delta S.C 900 Tiong Bahru Road, tel: 6474 7573
4. Jalan Besar S.C 100 Tyrwhitt Road, tel: 62939058
5. Buona Vista S.C 76 Holland Road, tel: 67780244
6. Toa Payoh S.C 301 Toa Payoh, tel: 62594808
7. Katong S.C 111 Wilkinson Road, tel: 63449609
8. Bedok S.C 901 New Upper Changi Road, tel: 64435511
9. Tampines S.C 505 Tampines Avenue 5, tel: 67861151
10. Serangoon S.C 35-A Yio Chu Kang Road, tel: 62884606
11. Yio Chu Kang S.C 202 Ang Mo Kio 9, tel: 64819054
12. Ang Mo Kio S.C 1771 Ang Mo Kio Avenue 1, tel: 64566821
13. Bishan S.C 1 Bishan Street, tel: 63536117
14. Jurong East S.C 21 East Jurong Street 31, tel: 65635052/65652297
15. Chuo Chu Kang S.C 1 Choa Chu Kang Street 53, tel: 67678606
16. Woodlands S.C 3 woodlands Street13, tel: 62694192
17. Yishan S.C 351 Yishan Avenue 3, tel: 67525513
18. Seng Kang S.C 57 Anchorvale Rd, tel: 6315 3576
For more information on SAFRA, go to: http://www.safra.sg/
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Things to do with your kids during school holidays
School holidays are the best! You never fail to see the enthusiasm in your child when the days approach... However after the initial thrill of saying goodbye to school, it's usually only a day or two before children start complaining about being bored at home. Instead of cooping them up at home or sit them in front of the computer or TV whole day long, why not plan some activities or outings for them?
It is never too early to plan. If you have time, start thinking now. Sign them up for holiday camps or workshops, bring them outdoors and plan for some fun excursions, or even enjoy some quiet reading and bonding in libraries! Here are some ideas to get you going.
Holiday camps
Science Buddies workshops
There are various workshops that employ different themes and are designed for small group of children to learn in an experiential approach.
Kids on HolidayCheck out their Holidays programmes and fun activities for your kids!
Learning Horizon Holiday CampsEspecially designed to offer fun, interactive, and educational activities for children during June and December school holidays.
Workshops and courses
Isadora's Workshops
Regular drawing classes, printmaking, papier mâché and book-making are all part of the curriculum to encourage a child’s freedom of expression. Parents are more than welcome to join in the fun.
Toddler Pottery Making Course
Toddlers with clay? Sounds dangerous to some, but this is a great way for the tiny tots to express themselves. This activity will help their motoring skills and get their creative juices flowing. Just prepare yourself for the post-fun clean-up.
YMCA Capoeira KidsCapoeira is a Brazilian artform that combines sport and dance. Children of all ages will enjoy its fun and uninhibited movements. Capoeira enables children to express themselves through movements to rhythm, and helps them to become more confident, expressive and creative!
Outdoors and Excursions
Bring them to the museumsIndulge in some meaningful knowledge pursuits. Learn about Straits Chinese values at the Peranakan Museum, where there are more than 20 children’s interactive stations in between the exhibits to make the Museum a welcome escape from the heat. Otherwise, at the National Museum, there is also a play-based programme that uses the museum's artefacts to stimulate toddler's natural curiousity, imagination, and creativity.
Kids Night Out
It's a 4-hour non-stop fun that includes a pizza party, arts and craft, a movie and more. Kids Night Out happens at least one Friday of every month and has a cool theme each time in every location. Drop your kids at these locations while you have some time for yourself.
Playground AT Big Splash
A new and exciting multi-purpose venture at the iconic Big Splash landmark. Touted as a lifestyle hub, Playground @ Big Splash features a wide array of dining and recreational amenities. The kids will be kept busy with a host of recreational options including the puntastically named LilliPutt (Singapore’s first themed, indoor mini-golf course) and Frisk ’n’ Romp Kids’ Playclub...
Interactive Square
Kids seem to stick like magnets to this interactive game square at Parkway. You will see tiny tots jumping all over the projection of a game board, with images of cars and balls on the floor, to their hearts’ content.
Kiddies' Playground Daily
As if the excitement of VivoCity isn’t enough, this fun-filled kiddies’ playground has a third-floor water feature-cum-paddling pool. Perfect for our sunny Singapore weather.Other things to do with your kids
Storytelling at Bookaburra
This popular centre attracts kids and parents with its storytelling and arts and crafts, which the youngsters can also take home.
SOL Playground Cafe
Play areas, activities, child-friendly menus and special deals make dining out with the kiddies less of a hassle.
Go Go Bambini
This fun-filled indoor entertainment area for kids has an interactive playscape, a soft play area for wee ones under the age of three, a café dishing up yummy salads, pastas and… wait for it... a nail bar for mummies while their kids are hard at play.
Creative Escape
A walk-in arts and crafts studio, catering to all abilities from first-timers to the more experienced crafters.
Story telling at libraries
Other than quiet reading and bonding with your kids, you may go for the regular story telling sessions or Fun with Tots programmes held at the various libraries islandwide!
Not enough? Look for more ideas here:
onePA offers a one-stop access to all of PA's courses, activities, facilities, interest groups and memberships.
Singapore for Kids. You'll be spoilt for ideas with what you get on this kids' activities resource portal.
Whats Happening.sg A premier local events guide for the latest happenings in Singapore.
It is never too early to plan. If you have time, start thinking now. Sign them up for holiday camps or workshops, bring them outdoors and plan for some fun excursions, or even enjoy some quiet reading and bonding in libraries! Here are some ideas to get you going.
Holiday camps
Science Buddies workshops
There are various workshops that employ different themes and are designed for small group of children to learn in an experiential approach.
Kids on HolidayCheck out their Holidays programmes and fun activities for your kids!
Learning Horizon Holiday CampsEspecially designed to offer fun, interactive, and educational activities for children during June and December school holidays.
Workshops and courses
Isadora's Workshops
Regular drawing classes, printmaking, papier mâché and book-making are all part of the curriculum to encourage a child’s freedom of expression. Parents are more than welcome to join in the fun.
Toddler Pottery Making Course
Toddlers with clay? Sounds dangerous to some, but this is a great way for the tiny tots to express themselves. This activity will help their motoring skills and get their creative juices flowing. Just prepare yourself for the post-fun clean-up.
YMCA Capoeira KidsCapoeira is a Brazilian artform that combines sport and dance. Children of all ages will enjoy its fun and uninhibited movements. Capoeira enables children to express themselves through movements to rhythm, and helps them to become more confident, expressive and creative!
Outdoors and Excursions
Bring them to the museumsIndulge in some meaningful knowledge pursuits. Learn about Straits Chinese values at the Peranakan Museum, where there are more than 20 children’s interactive stations in between the exhibits to make the Museum a welcome escape from the heat. Otherwise, at the National Museum, there is also a play-based programme that uses the museum's artefacts to stimulate toddler's natural curiousity, imagination, and creativity.
Kids Night Out
It's a 4-hour non-stop fun that includes a pizza party, arts and craft, a movie and more. Kids Night Out happens at least one Friday of every month and has a cool theme each time in every location. Drop your kids at these locations while you have some time for yourself.
Playground AT Big Splash
A new and exciting multi-purpose venture at the iconic Big Splash landmark. Touted as a lifestyle hub, Playground @ Big Splash features a wide array of dining and recreational amenities. The kids will be kept busy with a host of recreational options including the puntastically named LilliPutt (Singapore’s first themed, indoor mini-golf course) and Frisk ’n’ Romp Kids’ Playclub...
Interactive Square
Kids seem to stick like magnets to this interactive game square at Parkway. You will see tiny tots jumping all over the projection of a game board, with images of cars and balls on the floor, to their hearts’ content.
Kiddies' Playground Daily
As if the excitement of VivoCity isn’t enough, this fun-filled kiddies’ playground has a third-floor water feature-cum-paddling pool. Perfect for our sunny Singapore weather.Other things to do with your kids
Storytelling at Bookaburra
This popular centre attracts kids and parents with its storytelling and arts and crafts, which the youngsters can also take home.
SOL Playground Cafe
Play areas, activities, child-friendly menus and special deals make dining out with the kiddies less of a hassle.
Go Go Bambini
This fun-filled indoor entertainment area for kids has an interactive playscape, a soft play area for wee ones under the age of three, a café dishing up yummy salads, pastas and… wait for it... a nail bar for mummies while their kids are hard at play.
Creative Escape
A walk-in arts and crafts studio, catering to all abilities from first-timers to the more experienced crafters.
Story telling at libraries
Other than quiet reading and bonding with your kids, you may go for the regular story telling sessions or Fun with Tots programmes held at the various libraries islandwide!
Not enough? Look for more ideas here:
onePA offers a one-stop access to all of PA's courses, activities, facilities, interest groups and memberships.
Singapore for Kids. You'll be spoilt for ideas with what you get on this kids' activities resource portal.
Whats Happening.sg A premier local events guide for the latest happenings in Singapore.
Parenting tips for terrible twos
No one looks forward to the terrible twos, a developmental stage that usually begins sometime in the toddler years.
Although many parents don't expect the terrible twos to start until their toddler is two years old, it is important to note that it can begin anytime during your child's second year, and so anytime after their first birthday, and unfortunately, sometimes even before.
Characterized by toddlers being negative about most things and often saying 'no', the terrible twos may also find your toddler having frequent mood changes and temper tantrums.
To help you cope with this normal stage in your child's development, you should always remember that your child isn't trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. He is just trying to express his growing independence and doesn't have the language skills to easily express his needs. This can also be the reason why your toddler frequently gets frustrated and resorts to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
By learning more about this normal stage in your child's development, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren't contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Other tips for helping your toddler during the terrible twos include:
*having a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day
*offer limited choices only, like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not just 'what do you want for your snack.' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has power over things, but he isn't able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
*learn to set limits about things and don't be surprised when your toddler tries to test those limits to see what he can get away with
*don't give in to tantrums
*begin to use time-out and taking away privileges as discipline techniques
*provide your toddler with a safe environment that is well childproofed to explore and play in. It really isn't fair that your toddler should get in trouble for playing with something he isn't supposed to if you left it within reach.
Although many parents don't expect the terrible twos to start until their toddler is two years old, it is important to note that it can begin anytime during your child's second year, and so anytime after their first birthday, and unfortunately, sometimes even before.
Characterized by toddlers being negative about most things and often saying 'no', the terrible twos may also find your toddler having frequent mood changes and temper tantrums.
To help you cope with this normal stage in your child's development, you should always remember that your child isn't trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. He is just trying to express his growing independence and doesn't have the language skills to easily express his needs. This can also be the reason why your toddler frequently gets frustrated and resorts to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
By learning more about this normal stage in your child's development, it can make it easier to get through it and make sure that you aren't contributing to more battles than are necessary.
Other tips for helping your toddler during the terrible twos include:
*having a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day
*offer limited choices only, like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not just 'what do you want for your snack.' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has power over things, but he isn't able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
*learn to set limits about things and don't be surprised when your toddler tries to test those limits to see what he can get away with
*don't give in to tantrums
*begin to use time-out and taking away privileges as discipline techniques
*provide your toddler with a safe environment that is well childproofed to explore and play in. It really isn't fair that your toddler should get in trouble for playing with something he isn't supposed to if you left it within reach.
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